Have you ever been asked, “What’s wrong with you?”
It’s a heavy question. It lingers in the air, clings to your thoughts, and stirs up self-doubt that wasn’t even there a moment ago.
But let’s get one thing straight: the real answer is nothing. Nothing is wrong with you.
Yet, that single question has a way of making you feel like maybe there is. Like maybe you’re broken, difficult, or just too much.
Let’s unpack what’s really happening when someone says this to you—and, more importantly, how to take back your power.
The reason “What’s wrong with you?” stings isn’t just about the words—it’s about what they trigger inside you.
This question has a sneaky way of pulling up:
Even if the person asking didn’t mean to cut deep, the words stick. They take on a life of their own, looping in your mind, making you second-guess yourself, your reactions, even your worth.
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When someone says “What’s wrong with you?”, it often has nothing to do with you—and everything to do with them.
Here’s why they do it:
It’s not about your flaws—it’s about their need to control the conversation.
One of the hardest parts about being asked “What’s wrong with you?” is that it doesn’t just hurt in the moment—it lingers.
Suddenly, your brain is in detective mode, digging through past mistakes, embarrassing moments, and old wounds, trying to find “proof” that something really is wrong with you.
But here’s the truth: this mental loop is a trap.
You don’t need to collect evidence against yourself. You don’t need to justify who you are.
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If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of “What’s wrong with you?”, here’s how you shift the narrative:
✔ Challenge the Thought – Instead of letting it spiral, ask yourself: Would I say this to someone I love? If not, don’t accept it for yourself.
✔ Flip the Question – Instead of “What’s wrong with me?”, ask:
💡 “What’s RIGHT with me?”
💡 “Why do I deserve kindness in this moment?”
💡 “What do I know to be true about myself?”
✔ Rebuild Your Self-Worth – If self-doubt has been chipping away at your confidence, it’s time to take it back.
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The next time someone asks, “What’s wrong with you?”, remember: their words don’t define you.
You are not broken. You are not “too much.” You are not a problem to be fixed.
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✨ You are worthy of kindness—especially from yourself.