Have you ever been asked, "What's wrong with you?" It's a heavy question, isn't it? It hangs in the air and sticks to your thoughts. But let's get one thing straight right from the start: the real answer is, nothing. Nothing is wrong with you.
Sometimes people toss this question out not because they're worried about you, but because they're trying to throw you off balance. Think of it like someone trying to pass the ball in a game when they don't want it. They're trying to make you seem like the one who's messed up, so nobody looks at what they might be doing wrong.
It can be really tough when someone we trust or respect looks at us with a frown and says, "What's wrong with you?" The words might not seem like much, but they can stick to us like glue. Worse still, they play on repeat in our heads like a broken record, each time sounding louder and feeling heavier.
Why does this hurt so much? Because it reaches deep down where we store all our secret worries—the little whispers we tell ourselves when we're having a bad day or when something doesn’t go as planned. "Maybe I'm not good enough," or "Perhaps they're right, and I can't do this." This question brings all those whispers out into the open, turning them into shouts that we can't ignore.
The person who asks might not have meant it to sound so harsh. Or maybe they did. But once it's out there, it starts to grow like a tree in fast-forward, sprouting branches of doubt in all directions. You find yourself lying awake at night, replaying moments from weeks, months, even years ago, looking for the proof. "Was it wrong to do that? Say that? Want that?" It's like you're lost in a maze, and every turn just takes you deeper in.
This is what's so sneaky about that question. It doesn't just make you look at what's happening now; it makes you dig up every tiny thing you've ever felt uncertain about. Every mistake, every awkward moment, every wish—it's all fair game. You start to feel like a detective in your own life, but instead of solving a mystery, you're collecting evidence against yourself.
The worst part? This kind of loop—the spinning, the questioning, the digging—it doesn't lead anywhere good. It doesn't help us grow or feel better. Instead, it's dizzying, exhausting. It can make us feel tiny, like we're constantly messing up, even when we're doing our best.
The question "What's wrong with you?" is a bit like that hot potato. When a person says that, it doesn't really mean they want to know what's going on with you. Instead, they're trying to make you look at yourself so nobody looks at them.
Think about it. You get this question thrown at you, and suddenly, you're the one under the spotlight. You're the one doing all the talking and explaining, and everyone's looking at you, not the person who asked. It's their way of staying out of trouble.
This isn't about what you did or didn't do—it's a trick. This person is worried about their own mistakes or things they're scared of, and they don't want anyone to notice. So they point at you and hope everyone forgets to look at them.
They ask this because it gives them the upper hand. It's like they've taken the teacher's pointer in class and now they're the ones directing the attention. They might have no right to do this, but they act as if they're in charge.
It's like they're playing a game where they make the rules, and this question is a way to say 'I'm the one who decides what's right or wrong here.’. Or, let’s say they're the kind of person who needs everyone to think they're perfect. It helps them keep up the act that they have everything together.
Another reason might be they just want to stir up drama. For some people, making others upset or causing a fuss is a way to make life more exciting. Asking you what's wrong in a way that feels like an accusation can spark that drama and put them at the center of it all where they feel like they're in the middle of the action.
When you think about it, it's really about them and not you. They might be afraid of something or have done something they aren't proud of. So instead of dealing with their problems, they push it off onto you and make you deal with it. That way, they don't have to face their own fears and issues.
Remember, when someone asks you, "What's wrong with you?", they're not really asking because they care or are interested in the answer. They're more interested in how the question affects the balance of power, attention, or excitement around them. It’s important to recognize that when you get hit by that question, it may not be something you did; it’s often about what the other person wants to achieve for themselves.
When someone asks you, "What's wrong with you?", it can really throw you off. The clear, bright person you know you are just isn't visible. That question can trick you into thinking that maybe you really aren't okay, that maybe there's a whole bunch of stuff wrong with you, even when there isn't.
Hearing that can make you feel pretty low. Your thoughts start to fight with each other. One part of you is pointing out every single tiny mistake you've ever made, saying, "See? Something must be wrong." And the other part is trying really hard to fight back, saying, "That's not true; you know you're doing your best."
This back-and-forth can make you feel really mixed up. It’s as if you’re caught in a tug-of-war inside your head, and it's tough because the rope you're pulling is your own sense of worth. Part of you is trying so hard to pull towards believing in yourself, but that question - that pesky, unfair question - keeps yanking you back towards doubt.
"What's wrong with you?" – it can feel like someone's pointing a finger at you, blaming you for something. That's not a nice feeling, is it? But here's what you can do to feel better.
It's a good idea to spend time with the people who make you feel good. They remind you who you really are, and that you're okay.
Also, try to be really nice to yourself. Imagine what you'd say to a friend if they were feeling down. You'd probably be kind and encouraging, right? Do that for yourself. Tell yourself that you're doing a great job, that you're learning and getting better every day. That's something to smile about.
And there's a cool trick to feel even stronger. When that question "What's wrong with you?" tries to bother you, flip it around. Ask yourself, "What's right with me?" You'll start to think of all the good stuff about you. Try it, and you'll see – you've got lots of great things about you that no question can take away.
That's how you take back your power. You don't let someone's words make you feel small. You stand tall and you remember all the good things about yourself. That's the real you, and that's who you should listen to.
If you're finding it hard to shake off that question, "What's wrong with you?" or if you're feeling stuck on that merry-go-round of self-doubt, know that you don't have to go through it alone. Our mentoring program at Start Living Your Truth is here for just that reason – to offer you the support and guidance you need.
With us, you'll find a safe space to talk about these feelings, to learn how to take that power back, and to start asking yourself the right questions, like "What's right with me?" Our program is all about helping you see the good in yourself, even when others can't.
We understand it's not easy, but we're here to walk alongside you, every step of the way. Let's work together to clear the fog that's been cast over your view of yourself and help you step into the light of your own truth, where you can see everything that's right and good about being you.
