Do You Feel Like
There's Something
Wrong With You
Even When You Can't
Explain Why?

Feel like you’re the problem?
You're actually a Scapegoat Survivor

I'll help you see how abuse twisted your
sense of truth and how to rebuild it

so you can live as you, not as the problem

This Will Make Sense of It...

Why Healing
Can Feel So Confusing
(And Why Nothing
Has Worked Yet)

When you’ve spent years feeling like you are the problem, healing can feel impossible to understand
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What You Really Want

You want one thing, really:
To finally understand what’s “wrong” with you, and realize it was never you
If you grew up as the one who was blamed, shamed, or emotionally ignored, it makes sense that somewhere along the way you learned to believe:
“I’m worthless”
“Everything is my fault”
"There’s something wrong with me"
“I'm problem"”
“No matter what I do, it’s never enough”
You’ve tried to heal. Hard.
Therapy helped you understand your past, but it didn’t change how you feel in the present
You still get triggered. You still don’t feel safe just being yourself

Mindset work taught you to think better thoughts,
but it didn’t touch the deeper belief that you’re the problem
You’re trying to argue with something you learned as a child, using logic

Self-help gave you language, but it didn’t give you relief

You’ve tried to believe in your worth, but your reactions don’t know how to feel it yet
Even when your self-worth is strong in your head, your old survival responses still take over

And still, you end up in the same place, asking the same question:

“Why can’t I fix this?”

What you’re really searching for is the answer to that question so you can stop pouring time, energy, and money into fixing surface-level symptoms like anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt…
when none of them actually touch the wound underneath
You want to understand how growing up as the family
scapegoat rewired your inner world how it taught
you to doubt yourself, turn against yourself,
and believe you were inherently bad or wrong
You want someone to sit beside you and say:
  • Here’s how the abuse changed your sense of self
  • Here’s the exact pattern that’s keeping you stuck
  • Here’s why it keeps repeating
  •  And here’s what you can begin doing differently
What you need isn’t another technique
You need clarity
A way to make sense of your emotions, your reactions, the moments you freeze
and can’t defend yourself, only to collapse later over something small,
so you can stop feeling crazy or defective for having them
And a way to gently undo the belief that you are the problem,
so you can finally feel deserving of peace, safety, and happiness
You don’t want to become someone else
You want to meet the version of you that existed before the trauma,
and begin rebuilding a relationship with your own truth

What’s Actually Standing in Your Way

You’re not imagining this
These ways of thinking, feeling, and reacting are real, and they have a specific cause
This work is for you if:
  • You were the family scapegoat, blamed, criticized, or singled out no matter how hard you tried
  • You grew up in a narcissistic, emotionally abusive, or toxic family system
  • You learned to manage other people’s emotions just to survive
  • You carry a deep belief that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you
  • Your reality was constantly invalidated, dismissed, or twisted
  • You freeze when trying to speak up, be visible, or claim your expertise, even when you know you’re right
  • You replay conversations, overanalyze your words, and assume you did something wrong
  • You people-please, over-give, or shut down instead of setting boundaries, because a part of you doesn’t feel entitled to them
  • You’ve done therapy and “the work,” but still feel stuck in the same cycles
This isn’t “just anxiety”
It isn’t simple low self-esteem

This is scapegoat wounding,
and it requires specific understanding and support

How I Help You Heal

I help scapegoat survivors understand how the abuse shaped your sense of self,
how it taught you not to trust your own gut, silenced your wants,
and trained you believe you were the problem
When you can see that clearly, real change finally becomes possible
Here’s what makes this work different:
I work at the root, not the symptoms
Most approaches focus on managing anxiety, people-pleasing, or self-doubt

I help you identify the core wound created by scapegoating,
the belief that you are fundamentally defective or always “the problem”
so you’re no longer getting pulled into the same reactions over and over
I connect the dots in ways that create real “aha” moments
When your past experiences are linked directly to your
present reactions, the confusion lifts
Suddenly the freezing, the overthinking, the self-doubt,
the lack of boundaries, all of it finally makes sense

And when it makes sense, it stops controlling you
I help you rebuild self-trust and self-worth from the inside out
Scapegoating doesn’t just hurt, it disconnects you from knowing what’s real,
what’s yours, and what’s true about you
This work is about restoring that inner authority so you can:
  • Trust yourself
  • Want what you want without guilt
  • Set boundaries without shutting down
  • Live on your own terms, not in reaction to others

Why This Is Different And Safer

You were never “just the problem.”
You’re a scapegoat survivor
And that requires specific understanding
This work isn’t about coping strategies or “fixing” you

It’s about understanding how the abuse distorted your self-perception. And gently changing the responses that are hurting you now, while restoring what was taken
I combine education with personal guidance, so you don’t just learn what happened. You learn how to apply that understanding to your life
You won’t be told to forgive, move on, or think positive

We start exactly where you are
This work is about you, not repairing relationships with people who hurt you.
You get to decide what’s right for you, even if that feels unfamiliar or difficult at first

You don’t need the “worst” story to belong here

If you recognize yourself how you think, feel, and react,
your lived experience is real, and you deserve support

Hi, I'm Kaz!

And I specialize in helping scapegoat survivors understand how the abuse changed them
so they can finally stop feeling like they're the problem
You hold it together on the outside, show up for everyone else, and say "I'm fine"...
Then lie awake replaying conversations, wondering what went so wrong
When something hurts, you shut down instead of opening up, because a part of you is scared
that if you really let it out, it will make everything worse or push people away

I see you. This exhaustion is common in scapegoat survivors
and I specialize in helping you understand why

I've spent years studying scapegoat dynamics, not general trauma or anxiety, but the specific way being blamed, shamed, and ignored as a child rewires how you see yourself, trust yourself, and show up in the world
Most people work on surface symptoms: the anxiety, the people-pleasing, the constant self-doubt. But those are just symptoms of something deeper. The core wound from being scapegoated
My focus is different: I help you see the root cause you can't see on your own and empower you to start living your truth
One of my strengths is connecting the dots quickly between your childhood and adult experiences and your current struggles

I can often show you in one conversation what the real issue is, not because I'm "reading your mind," but because I understand how scapegoating specifically shows up in your life today

For example, I worked with someone who froze whenever they had to make decisions at work

Through our conversation, we uncovered that freezing wasn't about incompetence, it was a protection mechanism. As a child, any choice they made was criticized or used against them, so their brain learned that not deciding was safer than deciding wrong

Once they understood that response and where it came from, they could start to recognize it in the moment and make different choices

That's what I do:
I provide education and support
so you can understand the specific ways scapegoating shaped you,
and start to change how you think, feel, and react that keep you stuck

What Clients Say

If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, she can help people see things more clearly.

Working with Kaz has been really helpful for me. She makes it easy to talk about my thoughts and feelings, which I usually keep to myself, even from my family. She really listens with care and gives honest advice. After our chat,
I felt lighter and less worried.

Your reply has opened my mind to where I should start.

You just read all of that and you're probably thinking:
"Okay... but where do I even start?"
or
"I've been working on this for years, why am I still stuck?"
You don't know where you actually are in all of this, or what needs to happen next
Are you at the beginning?
Have you been stuck in the same stage for years without realizing it?
Did you skip something important?

When you can't see where you are,
you can't know what actually needs to change

That's what this guide shows you:

Why Healing Can Feel So Confusing

The 5 Stages of Healing And Why Nothing Has Worked Yet
so you can finally see where you're stuck and why nothing has worked yet
It’s Free and a great place to start
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